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After the whole thing is Asturias faded, I can safely say I have not liked anyone for the past two years—unless, of course, one considers as valid the remains and embers of a now-long-distance crush. I am not one to crush easily and as painful as the recent experience was, I come back to the thought that I am glad I can still feel that intensely for someone again.

On the subjects of having a crush, or fancying someone, like the English say, I came across this article on the UK's The Guardian. The article's target audience are students who are about to go on vacation; the author encourages these students, high-schoolers and undergraduates alike, to simply confess their longings, infatuations, or what have you, to the object of their affection. I have often regretted having told my friend I liked him, so I have very mixed feelings regarding confessions of passing emotions. However, I still enjoyed the article's good humor and frankness. On top of that, well-written pieces on topics that interest me make me happy. 

To the adolescent school pupil and blinking undergraduate alike, the end of term infatuation is a love that dares not speak its name.
Part of the reason, of course, is fear of rejection. We are horrified by the idea that if we show someone the soft underbelly of our feelings then they will immediately dance across them in hobnailed boots. Worse, that they will hate us for it. That we will repulse, dismay or alienate someone simply by telling them that we like them. Well, as John Steinbeck wrote in his wonderful 1958 letter to his son: “If you love someone – there is no possible harm in saying so – only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.” Nobody but a psychopath will feel anything but pleased to hear that someone finds them attractive. Approach it in the right way – with respect, understanding and casual sincerity – and they will at best be pleased, at worst surprised. And, as Steinbeck continues, if your feelings are not returned, for whatever reason “that does not make your feeling less valuable and good”.


  • Mood: Sentimental
  • Drinking: Coffee and milk

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After the whole thing is Asturias faded, I can safely say I have not liked anyone for the past two years—unless, of course, one considers as valid the remains and embers of a now-long-distance crush. I am not one to crush easily and as painful as the recent experience was, I come back to the thought that I am glad I can still feel that intensely for someone again.

On the subjects of having a crush, or fancying someone, like the English say, I came across this article on the UK's The Guardian. The article's target audience are students who are about to go on vacation; the author encourages these students, high-schoolers and undergraduates alike, to simply confess their longings, infatuations, or what have you, to the object of their affection. I have often regretted having told my friend I liked him, so I have very mixed feelings regarding confessions of passing emotions. However, I still enjoyed the article's good humor and frankness. On top of that, well-written pieces on topics that interest me make me happy. 

To the adolescent school pupil and blinking undergraduate alike, the end of term infatuation is a love that dares not speak its name.
Part of the reason, of course, is fear of rejection. We are horrified by the idea that if we show someone the soft underbelly of our feelings then they will immediately dance across them in hobnailed boots. Worse, that they will hate us for it. That we will repulse, dismay or alienate someone simply by telling them that we like them. Well, as John Steinbeck wrote in his wonderful 1958 letter to his son: “If you love someone – there is no possible harm in saying so – only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.” Nobody but a psychopath will feel anything but pleased to hear that someone finds them attractive. Approach it in the right way – with respect, understanding and casual sincerity – and they will at best be pleased, at worst surprised. And, as Steinbeck continues, if your feelings are not returned, for whatever reason “that does not make your feeling less valuable and good”.


  • Mood: Sentimental
  • Drinking: Coffee and milk
I have just come across Anne Thériault's blog, and found this article on writing. I wish I could I identify with more of what she says, and more often than not, I do not feel like a writer. Except of course, when years pass, and I find someone to be crazy about, and reel in unrequited love or affection or what have you. 
Anyway, here is a section of Thériault's essay that I want to share and keep: 

Write.
Just write.
In fact, I’ll even go so far as to say please write, because I promise you that there’s someone out there who’s dying to hear what you have to say, someone whose life might be changed by whatever sentiment you’re about to commit to paper or screen or cardboard-back-of-the-cereal-box. Write because you are the only person who has lived your particular life, and this has shaped your thoughts in such a way that you are the only one on this planet capable of expressing a thought in your own particular way.
Write because no other person who came before you or who will come after to you will ever, ever be able to do it in quite the same way that you can.


  • Mood: Tired
  • Drinking: Water, and getting coffee ready
About two years ago, I read Quiet: The Power of Introverts by Susan Cain, and I wrote down some quotes and took some notes on the book.

"Little [another author] believes that fixed traits and free traits coexist... we can and do act out of character in the service of "core personal projects." In other words, introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly."

Psychological tricks to feeling calm in stressful situations:
  • Pay attention to my body when I am feeling genuinely confident --> adopt those positions when it's time to fake it.
  • Smile.

Questions to help identify my own personal projects:
  • Think of what you loved to do as a child. How did you answer questions of what you wanted to be when you grew up? Pay attention to the underlying impulse: What did that profession mean to you?
  • Pay attention to the work you gravitate to.
  • Pay attention to what you enjoy. Jealousy tells the truth.
  • Mood: Content
  • Drinking: Coffee and milk

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Shawn-Reed Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2015
Dear Bundle, 
  Happy 4th of July! It was one year ago today that you left the last comment I received on my deviantart page- I want to return the favor and leave you a little comment to brighten your day. :)
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Shawn-Reed Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2015
I haven't had much time today at ALL- I've been playing cards with friends all day, and was up all night last night playing cards, and I'm fall-asleep-sitting-up-tired, but I want to say:

No matter what ambitions, hopes, dreams, or disappointments or heartbreaks today has been for you, I hope that you've grasped it and made it the most possible within your power. I hope that you've been able to seize this Valentine's Day by the reigns to make it a wonderful day for yourself. :)
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BlackBowfin Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Hey there.  I appreciate you faving Call it Fall.  Thank you much.  :highfive:
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Candlemind Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Buena galería. Me encantará perderme en ella en cuanto tenga más tiempo :)
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sesam-is-open Featured By Owner Jan 8, 2014
Roses-and-Butterfly by kmygraphic:iconthankyoupart1plz::iconthankyoupart2plz::iconthankyoupart3plz:
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BloodshotInk Featured By Owner Dec 28, 2013
I just wanted to come by and thank you for faving It's Not Love.. I really appreciate the support this poem's recieved. Made me feel less crazy for having those thoughts and feelings to share them and have them appreciated!
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BloodshotInk Featured By Owner Dec 16, 2013
:iconsharkplz:T h a n k   y o u   f o r
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GaYtAcOs Featured By Owner Oct 31, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
thanks for the favs!
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marrciano Featured By Owner Sep 1, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Thanks for favs. It's nice for me ... :)
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Darija-Blue Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2013
Amazing works :rose:
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